1800 Census Records – General Blog

The behaviour of normal people is rarely appropriate. How could it be! Because normal behaviour is generated automatically – you don’t have to give it any thought, you just react – by your subconscious mind. Your subconscious mind is an expert at enabling you react – it is this ability that has got the human race to the pinnacle of success! But, as I said, normal behaviour is rarely appropriate – because the subconscious mind is permanently focused on the past – your formative years – and it uses this past ‘stored knowledge’ to dictate your current automatic behaviour. With information that is way past its sell-by date being used to enable you react, how could today’s behaviour be appropriate to what is actually happening now?

How could it be right and proper when you consider that the normal person is forever on automatic pilot? Unfortunately, it’s just the way we’re built. If you’re having a good day, your behaviour can actually be mildly effective – that’s compared to how effective you could really and truly be had you taken the trouble to focus on what’s actually happening and act, rather than react. But even at that, normal people only have good days now and again. It’s the normal not-too-bad days that have your life trapped in that mundane, repetitive, not-so-bad life – you know, the one where really great things rarely happen, the one where you’re unhappy in your work or the one where your relationship has gone flat – the ordinary stuff of everyday life. And on those routine not-too-bad days, your behaviour varies from less than effective to inappropriate to absolutely outrageous. People losing their cool in traffic jams, people who bully their subordinates at work or who play with their workers’ lives. Husbands who beat wives, wives who beat husbands – or just the ordinary not-too-bad feeling of ‘I wish I was doing something else’ and all the ineffective behaviour that comes with that feeling.

Our problem is that we tend to confuse our behaviour with ourselves – a fatal mistake that can lead us into recrimination, guilt, frustration, anxiety and even more inappropriate behaviour. You are not your behaviour. How could you be? Your behaviour is automatically created by your personality – all the weight of ‘stored knowledge’ in your deep subconscious. Your personality has absolutely nothing to do with you – there’s a wealth of psychological evidence amassed over the last seventy years that proves this.

Which leads me to a most important point. You’re only able to take truly appropriate action (as distinct from normal reaction) by consciously side-stepping your ego or personality – this is the essence of personal development (as distinct from personality development). However, you cannot do that until you realize that all inappropriate action comes from your illusionary personality. What’s done is done – if your reactions have done damage, go and sort the damage out. But if the only damage was to your own self-image, then, get forget it, it’s past, you need to get on with your life – starting right now.

written by Super Writer \\ tags: Personal Development, Personality, Psychology, self help, Self Improvement

This subject is not new; in fact it has been around since about the 1960’s when the full potential movement and growing personally began to surface. So I am not giving any new awareness in these pages; but a brush up course.

Most of us from time to time realize something might be missing in our life. We are not sure exactly what it is, all we know is, something is just not as it should be. After writing some articles about personal change, I have found that so many people have lost their perception of whom they are and where they want to go. They are aware to some degree of their capabilities; but getting out of the deep freeze is not always easy. Then there are some who forget that we are all born with power . So for those….I say, you have what it takes to succeed. You and only you must have courage, which may be dormant also, just like your potential to make your life more enjoyable. You can awaken yourself, start attending your heart and soul messages. if you really listen to your own soul; I believe you will make the right moves in your life. You spiritual self, your soul will usually tell you when you are doing something right or wrong. There is no feeling like the good feeling that you feel when you now you have made the right choice. Listen to it or try to learn to. Let go of fear, and remember that challenges help us grow stronger. You can find many ways to help yourself become more aware of what you might need; and get yourself a Life Coach, if you are not getting anywhere on your own.

What exactly is Potential and Capabilities? Let’s start with this in mind….

Potential is something that is sometimes: hidden, dormant, undeveloped, not recognized but promising. It is definitely the following: inherent, possible, probably, ability, power, capacity and many other things.

If you are misleading yourself from discovering your full potential, please stop doing that. Find the courage to seek further within yourself for this important piece of pie that you have been given by the Divine. Look to your spiritual self and deep within your soul to be enriched with a new found power to set on fire the dormant potential that may need awakening.

A capability is described as: ability to perform, competence. Capacity is the general ability to comprehend an issue or perform a task. Capability implies a reference to one set of such abilities.

There is nothing wrong with wanting or being beautiful, (this is only one example of how we deviate from what is important sometimes) but if we have not opened our mind to what is more important in life; then we not only do not know the true meaning of beauty, but our knowledge has somehow been distorted. There are other examples that we can get side tracked with which hinder our growth and keep us in the everyday rut of not reaching for full potential. But, if you are reading this, then somehow you desire to know more. If one is satisfied where they are and do not intend to progress…it is their life, their success and their decision.

Being clear on our priorities is one step forward, clearing out the entanglements in our mind that we have to be like others and having the ability to stand alone with our values (if they are different), and being firm with our statement of who we are. A person, who has to go along with the crowd, has lost their ability to be true to themselves. I know it is not easy to say, I have a different view from the majority, but it is one of the most expedient decisions one can make. Kind of like when you were in your teens and you were leaving the house and your Mom said in that soft, sweet voice…. “Remember who “you” are!” That is the best advice I have ever heard….

written by Super Writer \\ tags: Capabilities, Change, Personal Development, Personal Growth, potential

Personal growth or personal development means many different things to each of us. We are all varied individuals and it takes a wise person to see they might have flaws and need to growth or change in some of their actions. Personal growth is about us and our prospective of us. The most important aspect of personal growth is how you feel about yourself. Do you see yourself relating to others, be it family, friends or co-workers appropriately? Are you living your life totally, completely and in line with how you think you should? Are you happy with how you deal with life or do you see yourself needing to change some things? Positive Changes does not indicate we are necessarily bad. It does not mean that we are debilitated in our life or living an inappropriate life but that we want to live a more durable life.

Another individual cannot tell you that you are in need of Personal Growth. It is a conscious decision that one makes for ones self. Reluctance is part of deciding if this is where we need to go. Sometimes we see the need to grow when life has thrown us a blow and we can’t get back on track, we need to learn something about whom we are and why we are reacting the way we are. Sometimes it is about success in our life; success we do not think that we have. We are not where we want to be and we need help to remove the interferences that seem to be standing in the way.

I have seen very egotistical people who seemed to think they know all the right ways and it is their way or no way. It seems that the people who need personal growth the most are carrying around baggage and do not even realize it. They are frustrated, intolerant and suspicious of others or they would not be trying to prove they know it all. No one knows it all, not today, not yesterday nor will they tomorrow. It does not matter how intelligent one is; it is how they portray themselves to other people. They think everyone else is lacking and they feel all of their expertise is being wasted. When in all actuality; their expertise is not visible due to their attitude.

To see the need for personal growth means you are seeking either recovery or possibly purification from something or someone. Maybe it is only that you need to change the way you perceive something that has changed you life. Arousing your self awareness can’t be all bad. It actually means you have depth of wanting to beautify your soul. You could be doing everything magnificently and everybody is happy, including yourself, but in reality; probably not. I am afraid that not many of us are happy all the time. Life isn’t all wine and roses and happiness is a frame of mind and begins within us like everything else….how many time have I said all of this begins within us?

If we are happy the way we are it means we have conquered something very important. When we get to this state in our life and we feel a sense of accomplishment; it bring contentment and a feeling of being at peace with ourselves and others.

written by Super Writer \\ tags: Change, Personal Development, Personal Growth, Positive Changes, Self Awareness